Frequently Asked Questions
S/M is a mutually agreed upon exchange of power under safe circumstances with any limits clearly agreed to and understood by the participants.
Who can come to your events?
Our parties are private events; you have to be invited to be admitted. You can choose one of these methods to ask for an invitation:
- You can be invited by a member or a guest who is on our list, and then arrive with the member or guest at the entrance to our event.
- A member can put you on the guest list on our website; you must be able to get receive an email back from us to complete the request.
- You can request an invitation on the website by selecting “Request a BDSM event invitation” and submitting the form through our website. This must be done at least 2 hours before the event. You must be able to receive an email back from us to complete the request.
You must be at least 21 years old to attend our events.
How can I go to BOOTCAMP?
Applications go out to all members, and each member can sponsor guests. Maximum attendance is limited on a first come, first served basis. We usually sell out. It's important to register early to secure your reservation.
How can I become a member?
To become a member you need to come to our events, get to know us, help with events and get sponsored by two Associate Members and one Fraternal Committee Member.
Do Fraternals wear studded vests?
There's two kinds of colors, studded and embroidered, they both mean the same — membership — and any member can wear either.